Me es Confuzzled What to do with my two female friends...
#1
Posted 17 April 2005 - 01:00 AM
Well, I figured that, with such a vast a knowledgable populace, that I could turn to my good friends in this community for... advice, I suppose. I'll fill you in on what's happening...
You see, I've got two friends. Let's just call them Friend S and Friend C. (Both girls, and the letters are the first letters of their first names.) Both are very nice, we share the same interests, and we're very good friends. Friend S can be a bit more talkative with me, and we like to share thoughts. Friend C is a bit quieter, but we're still quite good friends. However, quite recently, while waiting for our buses, a friend of mine heard Friend S mention two things. (And I'm 100% sure of them)
A) That, in an email to one of her friends, I am one of the "Top 5 boys that she likes".
B) That she wishes I liked her more than Friend C.
When it really comes down to it, I like them both equally as much... As friends. At the moment, I don't have a girlfriend or anything, and I don't mind. However, I don't want to seem biased towards either one of them, as I don't want either of them to be any different towards me as they are at this very moment.
So, I conclude... What I do?
You see, I've got two friends. Let's just call them Friend S and Friend C. (Both girls, and the letters are the first letters of their first names.) Both are very nice, we share the same interests, and we're very good friends. Friend S can be a bit more talkative with me, and we like to share thoughts. Friend C is a bit quieter, but we're still quite good friends. However, quite recently, while waiting for our buses, a friend of mine heard Friend S mention two things. (And I'm 100% sure of them)
A) That, in an email to one of her friends, I am one of the "Top 5 boys that she likes".
B) That she wishes I liked her more than Friend C.
When it really comes down to it, I like them both equally as much... As friends. At the moment, I don't have a girlfriend or anything, and I don't mind. However, I don't want to seem biased towards either one of them, as I don't want either of them to be any different towards me as they are at this very moment.
So, I conclude... What I do?
Senior Member / Intellectual Crusader
#3
Posted 17 April 2005 - 01:22 AM
A third party friend told you? Or you overheard yourself?
If A) turn to page 111 and act oblivious.
If B) turn to page 1337 and act oblivious.
If Spike has a point, turn to page 1338.
*turns there*
Tell them that you're too good of friends, and don't want to get into any kind of relationship. Relationships with friends can go awry. But, with this new knowledge make sure you yourself don't act any different to them as you have been.
If A) turn to page 111 and act oblivious.
If B) turn to page 1337 and act oblivious.
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when they confront u about it just tell them u guys are too much of good friends.
If Spike has a point, turn to page 1338.
*turns there*
Tell them that you're too good of friends, and don't want to get into any kind of relationship. Relationships with friends can go awry. But, with this new knowledge make sure you yourself don't act any different to them as you have been.
Overwhelmed as one would be, placed in my position.
Such a heavy burden now to be "The One".
Born to bear and read to all the details of our ending
To write it down for all the world to see.
Such a heavy burden now to be "The One".
Born to bear and read to all the details of our ending
To write it down for all the world to see.
#4
Posted 17 April 2005 - 01:22 AM
QUOTE(Spikeout @ Apr 16 2005, 09:06 PM)
I guess that works.

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but i feel ur pain hyper
You might be, but, well, I can't say that I am.

I suppose that works. Though the third party friend (actually, my best friend) was the one who told me, he told it to me in front of Friend S, and she put a hand over her mouth and stared daggers at him. Point being - yeah, it's true.
Still, I like that. I mean, it's not that I would really be all that ready for a full-on relationship of that type, and friendship is just fine for me. I just don't want to get any... err... bad karma...
Senior Member / Intellectual Crusader
#5
Posted 17 April 2005 - 01:30 AM
QUOTE(Hyperfried @ Apr 17 2005, 01:22 AM)
QUOTE(Spikeout @ Apr 16 2005, 09:06 PM)
I guess that works.

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but i feel ur pain hyper
You might be, but, well, I can't say that I am.

I suppose that works. Though the third party friend (actually, my best friend) was the one who told me, he told it to me in front of Friend S, and she put a hand over her mouth and stared daggers at him. Point being - yeah, it's true.
Still, I like that. I mean, it's not that I would really be all that ready for a full-on relationship of that type, and friendship is just fine for me. I just don't want to get any... err... bad karma...
Well since he told you in front of her... She knows you know then...
i would go at it with what I said earlier, remain the way you are with both of them. I've been in this situation 3+ times, and the best thing to do is not make any difference in how you act to either of them. That's what worked with me.
And if they come to you with it, tell them you aren't looking for a relationship, and also don't want to make Friend (other) feel bad.
Honesty. Best policy.
Overwhelmed as one would be, placed in my position.
Such a heavy burden now to be "The One".
Born to bear and read to all the details of our ending
To write it down for all the world to see.
Such a heavy burden now to be "The One".
Born to bear and read to all the details of our ending
To write it down for all the world to see.
#9
Posted 17 April 2005 - 02:29 AM
Well one, you've got to girls that chances are you could be bf/gf with either one, so dang. and two, If you do have any feelings for one don't let the other stop you, because if you never try to be with a girl you like, even if it might hurt a friendship. You'll never realy have a gf that you realy want.
But if you want to keep a even keel with both of them, find out if the other one likes you, if not than your problems are cured! if so, well refur to the first part of my post!
but good luck and hope that helped.
But if you want to keep a even keel with both of them, find out if the other one likes you, if not than your problems are cured! if so, well refur to the first part of my post!

Cliff=Bumgardner
#11
Posted 17 April 2005 - 10:26 AM
QUOTE(Hyperfried @ Apr 16 2005, 09:00 PM)
When it really comes down to it, I like them both equally as much... As friends. At the moment, I don't have a girlfriend or anything, and I don't mind. However, I don't want to seem biased towards either one of them, as I don't want either of them to be any different towards me as they are at this very moment.
Well, just follow what you really want, keep them both as friends. I don't think ignoring it would do too much good, though. Yeah, it could go both ways, she could just forget about it, or she could get into liking you much more than she already does

I've been in the situation in real life, and I didn't talk about it. Later on, things did get worse, and when he found out I didn't have the feelings he did, kinda made things more worse off than they could of been. *shrug*