[Aaron]

Edit: And for the record, as much as I LOATHE to admit it, abortion may be an option. I really, really REALLY hate saying that. But the fact of the matter is, it's the truth.

He speaks truth. I am not an advocate of abortion, but honestly it would solve your problem. If her parents are very strict, then most likely they have strong values. An abortion might cause even more conflict between families. If you do decide to not abort the baby, you could put it up for adoption, or you could step up and be a dad. The best advice I can give you for right now is to tell both her parents and yours. It may be tough, but hiding it will make it even worse when they find out.

[Bespetna]

Edit: And for the record, as much as I LOATHE to admit it, abortion may be an option. I really, really REALLY hate saying that. But the fact of the matter is, it's the truth.

He speaks truth. I am not an advocate of abortion, but honestly it would solve your problem. If her parents are very strict, then most likely they have strong values. An abortion might cause even more conflict between families. If you do decide to not abort the baby, you could put it up for adoption, or you could step up and be a dad. The best advice I can give you for right now is to tell both her parents and yours. It may be tough, but hiding it will make it even worse when they find out.

Most states say the parents must sign a release forum to get an abortion (unless you are 18yrs old +).

[Valerie419]

Edit: And for the record, as much as I LOATHE to admit it, abortion may be an option. I really, really REALLY hate saying that. But the fact of the matter is, it's the truth.

He speaks truth. I am not an advocate of abortion, but honestly it would solve your problem. If her parents are very strict, then most likely they have strong values. An abortion might cause even more conflict between families. If you do decide to not abort the baby, you could put it up for adoption, or you could step up and be a dad. The best advice I can give you for right now is to tell both her parents and yours. It may be tough, but hiding it will make it even worse when they find out.

Most states say the parents must sign a release forum to get an abortion (unless you are 18yrs old +).

Not particularly. In most states, the parent doesn't even have to know. It is the girl's prerogative to tell them if she feels the urge to do so. It is strongly advised that she does tell them.

I do agree, despite the fact that I am a big anti-abortion activist, it is a definite option. However, she can also go through the pregnancy and put the child up for adoption.

Don't forget, you two are not the only people that have been in these kinds of situations, consider all your options and THEN AND ONLY THEN make your decisions. Think of the consequences that will come with each option. Now you are both responsible for not 2, but 3 human lives. Think wisely. Don't go with your instincts or what other people tell you, go with what comes with the right kind of consequences.

[Kaezion]

time to abort (your relationship)!

[Star Jedi]

I agree with Valerie..

Obviously her parents *are* going to find out no matter what, honestly. You should tell the truth now, instead of wait..don't let her parents find out on their own..*sigh*

You should really take it into account what the girl wants to do and be supportive..whether this is a burden or not, it's hers to carry on. You got into this situation, now it's your responsibility to see it out. I think you should talk together and figure out what she wants to do now. I'm glad I believe you want to honestly fix this the right way instead of walking out on her now.

[Jake]

I dont know about your state laws but you can go to jail.
she's 3 yrs younger than you.

[Master Of Stuff]

I dont know about your state laws but you can go to jail.
she's 3 yrs younger than you.

this bothers me too... again, most parents wouldn't... but her parents could possibily press charges if they so choose to. The only reason I say this is because you have not painted her parents in a very good light.

Something about the underage not being fully capable to make decisions, yet I do not remember getting a box of decision making tools on my 18th birthday or my 21st birthday...

... waiting for a box of driving talent so my car insurance will go down on my 25th birthday.

[SlainThrax-]

Well. she and i went to the doctor. the baby isnt mine. she was drunk one night and slept with some guy. doesnt know who it is. i dont care though. i love her and she is carrying and raising the baby. and i will be helping as much as i can. she told her dad but she wont tell her mom.

[SlainThrax-]

time to abort (your relationship)!

by the way. you dont belong here with how immature you are.

[Res]

Yeah, the comment wasn't nessecary at all.

However, I am relieved to hear it isn't yours, just to remove some weight from YOUR shoulders. But if you love her as you say you do, then you'll do as you'ev said here and stay with her to help support the child, even if it isn't yours. That's the thing to do.

Stick with that, and you're good. And be careful from now on.

Take it easy, best of wishes with it all.

[Neraphym]

I dont know about your state laws but you can go to jail.
she's 3 yrs younger than you.

this bothers me too... again, most parents wouldn't... but her parents could possibily press charges if they so choose to. The only reason I say this is because you have not painted her parents in a very good light.

Something about the underage not being fully capable to make decisions, yet I do not remember getting a box of decision making tools on my 18th birthday or my 21st birthday...

... waiting for a box of driving talent so my car insurance will go down on my 25th birthday.

Slain, if that issue does arrise, just say you had the sex in Pennsylvania. That's perfectly legal here, and considering it's not too far away from you, you two might be able to pull that fabrication off. As for the baby not being yours, you should be very relieved. I'm also happy to hear that you'll still help her. She has hell to go through, and you will be there making a difference in her life. You might just save a life or two.

Finally, I'd like to take this time to commend Slain for showing tremendous restraint from flaming. A while back, you'd have started serious flame wars for much less than that which you have had to endure in this topic. I am seriously blown away by your maturity, and if I could give you some kind of prize, I would.

[©allum]

lol@Anti-abortion hypocrites

But you've got yourself in a pretty serious situation there, and I'm sorry I can't help with it.

[Res]

We're hypocrites because we don't agree with something, yet we admit that it is a feasible option? I don't like the idea of it at all. It doesn't mean I'm going to condemn anyone that has one.

And:

Finally, I'd like to take this time to commend Slain for showing tremendous restraint from flaming. A while back, you'd have started serious flame wars for much less than that which you have had to endure in this topic. I am seriously blown away by your maturity, and if I could give you some kind of prize, I would.

I second, and third that.

[Phieta]

Most states say the parents must sign a release forum to get an abortion (unless you are 18yrs old +).

There was a bill which would have made that a national law, but it never passed. Dunno how it works in the individual states at the moment.

I dont know about your state laws but you can go to jail.
she's 3 yrs younger than you.

It wouldn't be "you can go to jail"; it would be "legally, you are guilty of rape." But there's less than two years' difference between 15 and 'nearly 17' anyway. So meh.

Well. she and i went to the doctor. the baby isnt mine. she was drunk one night and slept with some guy. doesnt know who it is. i dont care though. i love her and she is carrying and raising the baby. and i will be helping as much as i can. she told her dad but she wont tell her mom.

Well, that's some relief at least. Still, teen pregnancies aren't exactly known for being easy — I'm sure this has already been a trying time for the both of you, and it's going to get harder now that she's going through with the pregnancy, but I'm glad to hear you'll be helping her along. I wish you both the best of luck with your new little boy or girl

Finally, I'd like to take this time to commend Slain for showing tremendous restraint from flaming. A while back, you'd have started serious flame wars for much less than that which you have had to endure in this topic. I am seriously blown away by your maturity, and if I could give you some kind of prize, I would.

I second, and third that.

Fourthed. Doubly so (eighthed?) because this is a... touchy issue, to say the least.

[x..]

Tight Situation...Ur doombed