It isn't too late to turn things around. Everything was improving greatly until the recent incident, but it seems that those involved wish to stop and I'm thankful for it. Really, this is a matter of maturity. As we have found it sometimes only takes one to crash the spirits of the clan. The leaders, mods, and
members (most of all) have been building the clan for years now. Many have put tons of effort into the clan such as Superchao and made it great. Many hundreds have had their input and contributions put into the clan at one time or another. Almost everyone wants things to go on and for everyone to get along...
But then one hypothetical person comes along who needs attention or has a grudge against a member or two. This person wouldn't be responsible enough to take more than his/her dislike of the individual or SeeD into account, and acts on it. If the person doesn't wish to leave SeeD, he/she would try various borderline tactics to provoke a conflict. If the person does wish to leave SeeD, two things can happen. Either the member leaves, or the member does damage until he/she is forced out (never asking to leave). Unfortunately, many choose the latter option. It is obvious that the individual would not wish to remain, though he/she is determined to make as large an impression as possible. Often flaming, sometimes purposely provoking conflicts to disrupt the entire clan.
The thing is, sometimes it does disrupt everything here. If the member is not taken seriously everything is fine, but when he/she is taken seriously the individual would get what he/she wants. What makes things even worse is if the individual's hypothetical friends back him/her up and join in in his/her defense. Their excuse would be that they're standing up for their friend, but what they don't see or don't consider important is that in the process they are hurting many others.
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So what is the result?
The work of many members to make the place great goes down the tubes for a while as some idiot goes off into the distance laughing his head off at the turmoil he/she managed to cause. I'm sorry to say but that is
hypocritical,
inconsiderate,
incredibly selfish, and sometimes even downright
malicious.
Over a thousand dollars and years of work went into the site from many members, and one feels the right to undermine all of that for his/her own selfish desires?If the member dislikes the clan or our members so much that leaving is necessary, then the person should
leave. Don't make others leave to make the place happy for you, if everyone did that nobody would be left. I'm glad that 98% of the clan is capable of simple tolerance unlike a couple who justify the clan's demise due to a few members. I mean, come on...
This applies to many members in at least some way, some obviously more than others. I will make a few hypothetical quotations which are always a problem (the likes of which I have heard more than once):
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1: He insulted my friend so my actions against the individual were justified.
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2: He needs to learn better, and if humiliation is necessary then it will be used.
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3: I will not stop until he stops.
Now I will say why they are problems:
1: So he insulted your friend, you find justification in returning the favor? If you consider it a problem for your friend, don't reflect the damage for him, instead try to end it. If everyone went by this revenge logic, someone else will back up the other guy, then a group of friends would go back at him, and before you know it the entire community is in an uproar. No one should be an exception, and if you feel bad for your friend why don't you go to a mod to handle the problem? If your friend conducted himself responsibly then he would not be the one to require correction.
2: Lol, let me get one thing straight: No website like ours is going to make fundamental changes to one's character or knowledge so quickly (or at all). Whether it be through benign or malicious means (humiliation being malicious in my mind), one should not expect changes to be made to one's character in any time by really an anonymous person on the internet.
Especially spelling, lol. The "Well he should learn to spell" justification doesn't really work too well when the individual physically doesn't have the ability yet to speak with perfect spelling and grammar. I dare anyone to tell that to a third grader face-to-face and see what changes are made in a month. Then, I dare anyone to tell that to someone from another country who is new to the English language. See what progress is made so quickly even if they try.
3: This is a very common complaint, and I have a simple answer to that: It takes two to stop, not one. If you won't stop until the other guy stops, and the other has the same logic, then please tell me what progress will ever be made.
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Look, the solution to all this is so easy to attain if one tries... All some have to learn to do is to forgive others if they have stopped. Really, everyone makes mistakes. Members, mods, leaders, administrators, and myself. We all make mistakes. If you think it takes one or two mistakes for a person to be an idiot then you need help. Mistakes should not be smeared in someone's face, everyone makes them and everyone should learn from them. Everyone should not, however, repeatedly try to get revenge for them. Above all, learn to let some things be.
If something is not intended to hurt you, don't hurt the person who did it. Feel free to provide feedback, but even criticism can be worded so that it won't be taken negatively.
If someone does something "annoying", do the same thing as the above.
If something is done obviously without thinking and it hurts you unintentionally, don't explode. Explosions aren't normally too nice.

Either ignore it if it was not intentional or mention it to a SMod or GMod.
If someone intentionally hurts you, go to a SMod or GMod. Don't return fire. If there was no provocation from your direction and you do not hurt them in return, the SMods and GMods will be on your side in the given situation.
This is all common sense, I just wish that a few would listen to theirs.
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I hope SeeD gets better, for Cspaces sake, he put alot of effort into this clan, and I want him to have a successful future.. even if some of the prats don't.
Thanks, but that's no justification in my mind.
I think it should be for
everyone's sake. Yeah, these things eat up my time and sometimes are stressful, but it has to be expected in my position here. Everyone else though... You know, as long as most are in a good mood here, I'll be in a good mood as well. If one tries to make the clan happy, that's much better in my mind than if one does it for one person's sake.
Everything is going to be alright. It can all be fine tomorrow, or we may have to wait a while. It's up to everyone on all "sides". If we all want a better clan tomorrow, then let's make it happen. Make suggestions for improvements if something isn't quite right, organize groups to do things that you feel a clan should do, join or start a mercenary group if you're interested in trying your luck in a war, or really do anything else that you would enjoy. Just keep common courtesy in mind, please.
... Now, let's get back to being SeeD for the first time in a year.